Being stuck or forced in between your parents and their problems (whether that is with each other or life itself) is like being caught in the middle of a whirlwind of emotions of which you never asked
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Letting Go
Repair or Repeat?
Saying you want change, and even wanting that change really, really badly, doesn't just make the change happen.
Our brains are hardwired to crave the familiar, even if the familiar is unsafe. This
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Is it time to surrender?
I received a comment on Instagram recently and it's something I get asked most frequently. What if my boundaries destroy the relationship? What if they can't handle the boundaries that I put into
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What if my boundary ends the relationship?
What if they don't accept the boundary? What if they ignore it all together? What if the boundary setting process steers them away for good? This fear is so common amongst clients, regardless of the
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Sometimes things don’t work out for a reason.
Recently, I told an acquaintance no.
Well, not initially. I had told her I could do something, only later to realize, I actually couldn’t. I had to pull out on a commitment I made to her to help
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Loved Ones and Addiction
I don’t share much about this anymore, but I wanted to touch on it as a point of encouragement. I grew up in a family that has long struggled (for generations, on both sides) with addiction. And I
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Are you caught in the loop around?
I coined the term “loop around” to reflect that moment just after you communicated a boundary.
It can feel overwhelming. Scary. And boy is it quiet. Cricket quiet.
You may stare at your phone or
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You Can’t Wait for Them
I know, it sounds obvious. But it isn’t.
Often, we delay our own healing, because we fear what others will think. We worry, will they feel abandoned? Attacked? Hurt? We fear their unhappiness or
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Love or Control?
I believe you want to give and receive love... I do. Because I do too. We were created for this very thing. But over time love gets tangled. We believe loving others means sacrifice at all costs. We
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Mistreatment
Most of us have not been taught how to handle conflict or mistreatment. Most of us have instead been taught how to smile, shrink and play nice.
Part of healing and breaking cycles is gathering tools
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