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personal development    reality checks

Sometimes things don’t work out for a reason.

Courtney J. Burg, Writer + Mentor
April 6, 2023

Recently, I told an acquaintance no.

Well, not initially. I had told her I could do something, only later to realize, I actually couldn’t. I had to pull out on a commitment I made to her to help her new business. And I hated that I had to do that. I really don’t like letting people down, or disappointing them.

Telling her no did not go well. She was upset, and confrontational. She didn’t understand.

And I had a choice.

I could be upset back at her. I could explain how my work priorities shifted, how the timeline wasn’t what I expected, how it didn’t align with my new commitments now… but I didn’t.

Instead, I apologized for misleading her. For not thinking it all the way through. I took responsibility for my part. I also acknowledged her anger, and her disappointment. She was hurt. I can extend compassion for that. I have been there.

The confrontation wasn’t comfortable. But it was necessary. I thanked her for the discussion, and hopefully it cleared the air. I also took a mental note. Sometimes things don’t work out for a reason.

Pay attention to how people react when you tell them yes.
Really pay attention to how they act when you tell them no.

XO

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