What if they don’t accept the boundary? What if they ignore it all together? What if the boundary setting process steers them away for good? This fear is so common amongst clients, regardless of the type of relationship they are speaking on. The anxiety that comes alongside the possibility of losing someone you love is very real.
What if, instead, you were just as concerned about losing yourself?
If your boundary ends a relationship, it may be a sign that the relationship was not healthy to begin with. Boundaries are meant to bring clarity and understanding into your relationship, but it takes two willing participants to make that work. If the other person is unwilling, combative, or continues to disrespect your boundary, this is a strong indicator that their love for you was conditional on your compliance to them.
I’ve been there. I have felt the pain of retaliation. I have walked in the shoes of grieving someone who is still very much alive and words fail to depict just how difficult that truly is.
But, I also know joy. I know what loving myself and others well actually looks like. I have experienced the feelings of safety, contentment, and rest. I have found family in friendships and healing in all areas of my life because of this practice.
What if the most important question becames “What if I lose myself for not setting that boundary?” and any loss thereafter was a weight you decided you no longer had to carry.
It is okay to outgrow the people and places that you once thought you could never live without.
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