I get asked a lot about how to cultivate and honor boundaries in (and for) marriage. It is a topic I don’t dive into much, however it is important to acknowledge that strong boundaries within marriage
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Healing
Are You Being Honest With Yourself?
For many years, I feared facing reality. It is why I drank, used drugs, stayed busy and fueled chaos.
I wasn’t ready or willing to be honest with myself.
It felt painful to consider that maybe,
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Codependent vs Boundary Led Thinking
Once you begin the work of setting boundaries, you may notice how much of your thinking is wrapped up in codependency. It is one thing to change the behavior around this belief system. It is another
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I use to EXPLODE, a lot.
I lived on hyper alert for a very long time. I was vigilant at scanning my surroundings; picking up on any change of tone or body language. I believe now that this was a part of growing up in a home
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Are you a People Pleaser?
We think we are pleasing others because it is how we show our love. But if we look beneath the surface of this behavior, we will find that it is much more than that.
Usually this is a behavior that
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Are You Stuck?
Ever wonder why you return to that relationship again? Even after all the pain it has caused you?
Trauma bonds are rooted in unhealthy patterns of behavior. These often aren’t as obvious as you would
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Love or Control?
I believe you want to give and receive love... I do. Because I do too. We were created for this very thing. But over time love gets tangled. We believe loving others means sacrifice at all costs. We
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How will I know I am healing?
Occasionally, we want to know.
Like, am I getting any better?
Am I breaking cycles?
Is this work actually paying off?
The answer is yes. This is how you will know:
you can identify, communicate and
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Mother Hunger
The term Mother Hunger hit the scene this past year thanks to trauma therapist Kelly McDaniel’s new book. She refers to “mother hunger” as a way to frame an insecure attachment with your primary
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