Almost ten years ago, I began seeing a therapist. I knew I had a problem with alcohol, but I didn’t know a thing about being codependent.
He asked me a simple question. A question that
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Archives for December 2020
Detachment from true self
The more I do this work to return to my true self, the more I am reintroduced to who I really am and what I need. I’m able to better understand why I am here, what
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Thick Skin vs. Healing Skin
I thought the goal was to grow a “thick skin.” I didn’t want to feel pain anymore, but I could no longer numb myself with alcohol or chaos or distractions, so what was
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Unsafe people vs. safe people
There are some people that will remind you of your past, your failings, they will leave you questioning + worried + defensive. They will bring to the surface all that you
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It makes you human
I have shared here how I spent over two years estranged from my parents + siblings. I was newly sober, newly pregnant + my body was shutting down. I had shingles,
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It’s okay to feel sadness at Christmas
It wasn’t too long ago, that I felt a deep sadness around this time. I was heavily drinking, fighting anxiety + depression, and while I had a home, I didn’t want to
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The “Black Sheep”
I know what it’s like to be left out by your family. I know how it feels to have a pull so deep inside drawing you back, a voice so loud that screams “You can’t do this,
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Family Loyalty
Part of my own healing has been challenging old beliefs that I carried for many, many years. These beliefs shamed me whenever I wanted to do something different than my
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I’m not responsible for your version of me
The expectations + pressures of others can be heavy. Often, it comes from their desire for you to live out the version of your life they have designed in their heads.
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Happiness is the goal
When we push away our own discomfort, it’s no wonder then we aren’t able to navigate it alongside our children. After years of numbing + running from myself, after
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