Part of my own healing has been challenging old beliefs that I carried for many, many years. These beliefs shamed me whenever I wanted to do something different than my family of origin. The thoughts would ridicule me, torment me, and ultimately, left me feeling weary + caged. I felt anxious, worried or fearful whenever I needed to do something that didn’t fall in line with the way it had always been done.
Holidays can bring up a lot for you. The underlying current may be that loyalty to your family means doing what they want, when they want you to.
It isn’t true. We are loyal to others only when we learn how to remain loyal to ourselves.
Loyalty can mean spending time apart, honoring yourself + needs, and saying “no.” Loyalty is not sacrificing your mental health or your energy or your needs for the sake of another family members happiness.
We all carry beliefs that aren’t ours. They are passed down through the generations, often without question or awareness. It’s important to spend some time examining them. Do they align with who you are and where you are headed?
What does loyalty mean to you this holiday season? What beliefs are you challenging or rewriting?