There are some people that will remind you of your past, your failings, they will leave you questioning + worried + defensive. They will bring to the surface all that you have worked to let go of + ignite a desperate searching or clinging that wasn’t there before. Almost like a tug o war.
They invite you to pick up your old armor; perfectionism, people pleasing, addictions, playing small, lying, controlling, and manipulating. They are what I consider to be “unsafe.” .
Then there are “safe” people. While no one is perfect (we all harbor some amount of unsafe qualities bc we are human), these people remind you of how far you’ve come. They encourage you to lean into your faith + strengths, and remind you often that yes, it’s important to reflect on the past, but it isn’t who you are or where you are anymore. They build you up, inspire you, and speak gentle truth over you. They remind you of your goodness + do not leave you feeling confused, but confident + secure instead.
Maybe it’s time to leave a few unsafe people in 2020? Be thankful that some wrong people taught you some right things and onward to those who can meet you where you are at now. ♥️
