We can’t control how people hurt.
We can’t force compliance, rush processing, or demand obedience.
Many are angry. Underneath that anger is layers + layers of unprocessed trauma, abuse + neglect.
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Boundaries 101
Reminder for whoever needs it today. Sending love + encouragement ♥️
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Focus less on teaching how to succeed…
I once had a teacher tell me I wasn’t good at math. I believed her, and stopped trying. Guess what? I’m still not very good at math. But maybe I was decent? Except I didn’t know how to handle her
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Unsafe People vs Safe People
Safe People intimidated me at first. I also thought they were boring #confession. They didn’t cater to my gossiping, nor did they get a high off of the confusion or inconsistencies that I did. Quite
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Pain Threshold
I always thought I was the stronger one. The bullet proof one. The one who could be lit on fire without blinking. I always thought I saw the best in people... this was my super power, right? Before
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Tools to shift into a Secure Attachment Style
This about sums up the work I’ve engaged in for the last five years. Hardest for me was learning how to lean into Safe People to practice being more vulnerable + rebuild trust in myself and others. I
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Secure Attachment Style
The Secure Attachment style usually stems from a child who is able to express needs very early on, and learned to trust that her caregiver would respond appropriately + predictably to this
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Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style
The Dismissive Avoidant tends to stem from a child who had a parent that was usually considered successful, self sufficient, with rigid boundaries + an inability to bond. They tend to be extremely
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Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
The Fearful Avoidant attachment usually stems from a child who lacked bonding with a parent or caregiver, and therefore fears any bonds of the future. They aren’t able to trust + often withdrawal or
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