This about sums up the work I’ve engaged in for the last five years. Hardest for me was learning how to lean into Safe People to practice being more vulnerable + rebuild trust in myself and others. I found it much easier for a long time to just assume I could do this life thing alone. I didn’t “need” anyone, and really believed if I just kept my distance, I couldn’t be hurt anymore and I couldn’t mess it up again. Truth is, this life is meant for connecting. I didn’t want to live distanced, I just didn’t know how to engage with others in a healthy way. It took time. It didn’t happen over night. I learned to notice red flags in myself + others and chose to set boundaries so that I wasn’t repeating patterns in relationships that kept me stuck. I began spending time with people that I wanted to be more like. Honest, open, trustworthy, encouraging, safe people. People who reminded me of my strengths, who believed in me.
Our worth depends on this work. It is reflected in our relationships. If we continue to settle for what we use to, we will only reinforce what we deeply held formerly to be true: im not enough.
Today marks the day that you can choose to make the shift. Use the past as information to rebuild your future. No more excuses, no more chains, no more blaming. This life is yours to reclaim. You can create one you’ve always wanted. ❤️
More free resources (meditation, Breaking Free journal guide, and Inner Child work) available for you in my bio.
Stay encouraged, friend. It’s never too late to begin.