The Dismissive Avoidant tends to stem from a child who had a parent that was usually considered successful, self sufficient, with rigid boundaries + an inability to bond. They tend to be extremely emotionally distant + more concerned about the order of things, a career, or how life appears from the outside looking in.
⭐️When this child becomes a parent themselves, this tendency can reveal itself through having little tolerance for emotional outbursts, and thus a child learns to no longer express them. This dismissive pattern often forces a child to neglect their emotions + become extremely self reliant quickly. Since the parent wasn’t able to emotionally bond + coregulate as a child with their own caregiver, they often expect their own child to “toughen up” or “get over it” too. This parenting style often fixates on the flaws of a child and relies heavily on blaming + shaming to “control” the environment and those in it. This way of interacting is one where no one relies on anyone but themselves, and secure relationships are considered unnecessary. Stay tuned for more tools + resources to begin healing.