I know it’s easy to stay angry. I know it’s easy to be resentful, victimized, disappointed. I know this because I drank myself into a dark hole feeling this. I wondered when someone would come to heal + save me until I realized that someone was me.
I looked around + could count on one hand the safe people in my life God had blessed me with. From there, I began leaning on them + only surrounding myself with safe people like them. People I wanted to be more like. Trustworthy, encouraging, honest, consistent, kind people.
There comes a point where we must take responsibility for our own willingness to add to our suffering. I know you may be use to it, it may even remind you of home; the pain, the confusion, the inconsistency, the crumbs… but it doesn’t have to be this way. You can create a new home. A truly safe one.
You may say “well that’s great but I don’t have even one safe person.” To which I would respond, “become the safe person, and other safe people will attract to you.”
When you quit abandoning yourself, something magical ✨ happens. You begin being treated with the same respect + appreciation you give yourself. And when someone comes along who doesn’t give you that, you’re strong + able to walk away because you know you’re worthy of more. 🤍