What if I told you you’re allowed to use the bathroom alone? Or that you can ask your kids to stop climbing on you? Do you feel you’re allowed to share honestly with your children that you have a date night planned, and they aren’t invited? What if I told you that you are allowed to have creative time, time that excites you, thoughts that spark your intellect? What if I told you that you aren’t a “bad” mom for wanting time alone, or to have goals + dreams outside of being only a mother? What about feelings… can you imagine yourself free from taking every outburst of theirs personally? For once, not feeling like you’re failing at this thing?
What comes up for you after reading 👆🏼 that?Does it feel impossible?
Like a dream?
I feel you, mama.
My first year of motherhood I felt so much guilt anytime I imagined myself feeling, doing or needing anything outside of my baby. I believed I had to jump at every request, tip toe around their emotions, and put myself on the back burner… because motherhood is simply sacrificial, right? 🤪 Now I know, boundary work is the only way I can truly show up for them. Plus, I’m giving them permission to seek a life outside of mine too. They can have space, needs + ideas independent of me. Reminders that it’s okay to live separately, and love each other deeply. They can blossom into who they’re created to be.
This week I’m sharing about #boundaries in our CMC (Conscious Mama’s Circle.) I hope you’ll join in. Details will go out to those on my email list, as will all the previous zoom recordings from this series.