We think something is wrong with our boundary when a person we love pushes back, is offended or doesn’t agree with it. Instead of sitting with it for a while and letting the dust settle, we typically race back to the person screaming “never mind!!!” because we can’t handle the discomfort.
Truth is, boundary work is uncomfortable. But the only way you’ll begin to trust you deserve more than the crumbs is by asking for the whole damn slice.
Less setting boundaries ONLY IF it makes others content. Less setting boundaries ONLY IF others agree or respect it. More setting boundaries that align with what you need, where you are headed + who you are becoming.
Not everyone can come with you. It hurts, yes. But not as painful as consistently abandoning yourself for others.
Don’t question what you need. Question those who don’t want or aren’t willing to give it to you. 🤍
