Friendships are such an important part of our lives. They are meant to provide us with companionship, support, and the relationships that our hearts naturally yearn for! In fact, some healthy and strong friendships in my life I can confidently say have become more like family over time. But… what if that friendship doesn’t feel strong and healthy anymore? What if it never did, but you can’t seem to let go?
It can be difficult to know when it’s time to part ways, but there are a few signs that can help you in this decision.
- You stopped enjoying that friendship. If you are being really reflective, you may not even look forward to seeing them anymore. Seeing them may cause anxiety, or it may leave you feeling emotionally drained or depleted.
- You feel uncomfortable around them. Maybe their words or actions now make you feel unsafe, unsettled, or unheard. Maybe they are partaking in things or behaviors that they expect you to participate in, and you leave questioning yourself and your own values more and more.
- You are giving more than you are receiving. Like any relationship, there is a safe balance when it comes to filling our cup and helping others fill theirs. But suddenly, maybe you are filling their cup for them. Maybe not so suddenly, you come to realize they haven’t ever helped you fill yours. You may not be able to talk about yourself without them shifting the conversation to them, and you feel constantly depleted afterwards.
It is up to us to decide who and what we want to let in and out! You can be friends with many, but wisdom says to be intimate with few. In fact, if you’re friends with “everyone,” you’re probably not very good friends (more intimately) with anyone at all. Your few are waiting for you and pouring into those versus trying to pour into everyone will leave you feeling safe, heard, refreshed, and empowered.
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