You weren’t created to fix or save or rescue them— if you were, they’d be fixed or saved or rescued by now, considering how many times most folks try to do just that. Repeating the cycle only causes you (and them) more suffering.
Learning what is yours to carry, and what isn’t, is the key to your freedom. Learning how to let them handle their own discomfort + growing pains, while you handling yours, is how love and trust gets unstuck. Get out of the way, let it flow.