Most people are living in protection mode. This reveals itself through rage, withdrawal, people pleasing, disconnect, anxiety, even addiction.
Boundary work isn’t a part of these survival skills. Boundaries are not walls. They are not punishments. They are not ultimatums or lessons we teach others. They are not knee jerk reactions employed to create a false sense of security.
Perhaps you were never modeled appropriate boundaries as a child, so they are foreign now. And the thought of utilizing them only increases your response of defense. When under pressure, you feel your body engage and without consciousness, you respond, often regrettably. This is its way of trying to keep you safe, albeit the lack of awareness + unhappiness in the process.
Let me remind you, this work takes practice. When I first began, it took a while for me to find my groove. After having no voice for so long, my boundaries were rigid, harsh + extreme. They felt more like pushing people out than peace + freedom. I was still scared then, still functioning from my wounds.
Over time you’ll find that practice will bring you from protection mode 👉🏼 to safety. Here, you are less triggered by others. You feel empowered in your choices. You find that little of what others do is your fault or responsibility. You care for yourself, not out of survival, but out of conscious choice + action. No longer will you feel wounded + afraid or unsure, instead you will feel secure + confident in your space, mind + body.
This is the work. This is healing.
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