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Different kinds of boundaries

Courtney J. Burg, Writer + Mentor
December 9, 2020


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There are different kinds of boundaries. The main ones relate to physical touch, emotional well being, material possessions + time. Setting boundaries is hard, especially for a recovering people pleaser like me 🙋🏻‍♀️.⁠
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I never knew how to set a boundary. I did notice initially that I would feel uneasy inside (my body signaling a boundary needing to be set) but I’d dismiss it because I wanted to be liked, I wanted to make others happy, and I didn’t want to ruffle any feathers. ⁠
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Ignoring myself and pushing my needs aside felt easier than speaking up, and ultimately caused me much physical pain (migraines, shingles, panic attacks, etc). .⁠
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Today, boundary setting isn’t as scary… although I still face challenges. As a mother to four young children now, I am now responsible for modeling healthy boundaries, and also advocating for + respecting their boundaries too. It’s a delicate line to find, but one that is always worth walking. ⁠
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It’s important to realize that as a child, maybe you weren’t given space + support to speak up. And as an adult now, you may struggle because you learned to believe you aren’t allowed boundaries, and that your needs aren’t valued or justified. ⁠
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Part of this journey is unlearning those old beliefs + applying new tools that reinforce a sense of self, safety + trust from within. It’s possible. And it’s beautifully freeing + powerful. ⁠
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If you’re new here or to this whole topic, I would love to hear your concerns or questions. ⁠

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Mama of four. Writer. Saved by Jesus, boundaries + dry shampoo. ✨ Reminding women of their worth.

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