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Boundaries as a mama

Courtney J. Burg, Writer + Mentor
December 5, 2020


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What if I told you that you aren’t a “bad” mom for wanting time alone, or to have goals + dreams outside of being only a mother? ⁠
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What about feelings… can you imagine yourself free from taking every outburst of theirs personally? For once, not feeling like you’re failing at this thing? ⁠
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My first year of motherhood I felt so much guilt anytime I imagined myself feeling, doing or needing anything outside of my baby. ⁠
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I believed I had to jump up at her every request, tip toe around her emotions, and put myself on the back burner. I didn’t understand then that by having little boundaries between her and I, that I was placing a heavy burden on her that wasn’t hers to carry. ⁠
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Once I began my own work, I was able to separate my feelings and needs from hers. I was able to handle the rage/confusion/anxiety that came up when she threw a tantrum. I was able to live without taking everything she did or didn’t do, personally. ⁠
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Do you know what happens when I am not doing my own work? My people pleasing tendencies come out. I start to feel ashamed + overwhelmed, like I can’t breathe. I feel resentful and annoyed. Not just with my children, but really with myself. ⁠
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If this sounds like you and you are looking for some deeper work, I have a free Breaking Free Journal Guide available. The new (updated version) is publishing soon just in time for you to start the New Year with this at home practice.⁠
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It is created by me and is what I use to stay on top of my “stuff” so that I can show up for my babies as the best mama possible. All those on my email list will get a copy. ⁠
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This is a gift for generations after you– by caring for yourself, you are passing permission to your children, and one day theirs. They can have feelings, needs + ideas independent of others. They can blossom into who they’re created to be without carrying the baggage of those before them. ⁠
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Sign up through the subscribe link in my bio to get my free Breaking Free Journal Guide. ⁠

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Mama of four. Writer. Saved by Jesus, boundaries + dry shampoo. ✨ Reminding women of their worth.

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