It’s very easy to let those you love who are active in addiction step over your boundaries. It’s easy to justify, deny or minimize because sometimes the guilt + worry gets too heavy.
“They need me.”
“They’ll die without my help.”
“I’m the only one they have left.”
Truth is, we can only help those who are ready + willing to help themselves.
It’s hard to see someone you love suffering. It’s hard to tell them “no.” It’s heartbreaking to go to bed at night wondering where they are, if they know their worth, whether you’ll ever see or talk to them again. But those in active addiction need you to have strong, consistent boundaries. This doesn’t mean you don’t love them, it means you do. They need to know your limits, so one day they can have their own. Without boundaries, you’ll lose yourself… and can be of no help to anyone.