One-sided relationships are common when your boundaries are inconsistent. You find yourself stuck in one-sided relationships when you deeply desire to earn love, acceptance, and belonging. Sometime you may feel that it is easier to continue to give of yourself than imagine what it would be like to lose that person and the perceived loneliness that may accompany. Do you find that you seem to always be the one to initiate or apologize? This can come about because you want to ensure their happiness, even if it means you are unhappy on the inside.
Here are some signs that you may be in a one-sided relationship:
- You apologize, even if it is not your fault.
- You always initiate plans.
- You are the only one asked to change or compromise.
- You feel that you can never really let your guard down or talk about yourself.
- You don’t actually feel at peace when you are with this person; you often leave feeling exhausted.
- You feel that the relationship wouldn’t last if you didn’t work to make it last or if you ever dared to say “no”.
The truth is that this is unhealthy. There will never be an amount of love, sacrifice, or commitment that will keep a one-sided relationship afloat. That person will only grow to expect more and more of you over time, until you have nothing left to give. That is when the cracked foundation of the relationship will crumble, even if you gave it everything inside of you to prevent that.
You deserve better.
If you’re stuck in a relationship like this, I can help. It will require uprooting the hidden beliefs that are holding you captive. It will require establishing boundaries that align with your values, not theirs. It will take sitting in discomfort until you feel worthy enough to no longer settle. You are worthy of being pursued equally in the healthy relationships around you.
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