When your role has always been the one who does it all, it’s hard to step away and claim a new one.
It’s hard to ask for help.
It’s hard to not over commit.
It’s hard to keep it simple.
It’s hard to let go.
It’s hard to change.
But it’s not impossible.
We have to quit killing ourselves for the sake of our people and proclaiming it as love. We have to recognize our limits + honor them. We have to resist the temptation to let resentment + bitterness build because we are too afraid + too unsure of how to not live this way anymore. Above all we have to stop blaming others for our inability to recognize that our worth isn’t found in performing or pleasing or pretending. It never was.
I know you believe to love and be loved is to serve + give + to prove or earn your spot. But I want you to remember that at any moment you can rewrite that belief. Here, now, you can decide that love was never about losing yourself. You deserve better, and so do your people.