If you find yourself discouraged, confused or shrinking often, unsafe relationships will reinforce this.
Safe relationships on the other hand, see your mistakes and lacks but don’t punish you for them, they build you up with kind and encouraging words, and they remind you of who you REALLY are. Safe friends don’t judge your progress or your pace, they never belittle you, and are able to celebrate your wins and success because it truly makes them happy to see you happy.
To find + keep safe friends you must work to become one. Ask, why do I gossip? Why does their success make me feel inferior? Why can’t I set a limit, and instead choose to let this resentment grow? Why do I push away their sadness? Why can’t I create space for them to feel without making it mine? What is this bringing up for me, about me?
Healing is a return to self. When you are secure in self, you can be a secure, safe friend for others.
