I use to train with a trainer that I thought I couldn’t stay healthy without.
I had a family that I thought I couldn’t find belonging without.
I had a job that I thought I couldn’t have an identity without.
I hung with a group of sober friends that I thought I couldn’t stay sober without.
I had a boyfriend that I thought I couldn’t feel loved without.
Until one day, I looked up and realized that I was staying for all the wrong reasons. I was afraid to expand. I was unsure of who I was without them. I feared standing on my own two feet. My dependence held me captive, and playing small felt comfortable. I believed loyalty meant never leaving, which excused a lot of behavior, interactions or happenings that I was no longer in alignment with.
Sometimes we are meant to expand, but are unwilling to let go to do so. The guilt riddles us. The fear paralyzes us. The unknowns of the future, too uncertain.
And so we stay. Held hostage by the familiar + the lie that we can never be who we are, can never do what we are meant to do, without them.
Here’s your reminder:
It’s okay to outgrow some people. It’s okay to walk away from a job or a friendship or a situation that you no longer align with. You can detach from the guilt of that exit and leave with gratitude and curiosity. You are worthy of growth + change. Letting go is uncomfortable, but it can also be exciting, as something beautiful is on its way… but it can only arrive if it’s welcomed with faith + space.
Are you outgrowing anything or anyone right now?