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It’s okay to outgrow people and places

Courtney J. Burg, Writer + Mentor
June 30, 2021


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I use to train with a trainer that I thought I couldn’t stay healthy without. ⁠
I had a family that I thought I couldn’t find belonging without.
I had a job that I thought I couldn’t have an identity without. ⁠
I hung with a group of sober friends that I thought I couldn’t stay sober without. ⁠
I had a boyfriend that I thought I couldn’t feel loved without. ⁠
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Until one day, I looked up and realized that I was staying for all the wrong reasons. I was afraid to expand. I was unsure of who I was without them. I feared standing on my own two feet. My dependence held me captive, and playing small felt comfortable. I believed loyalty meant never leaving, which excused a lot of behavior, interactions or happenings that I was no longer in alignment with. ⁠
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Sometimes we are meant to expand, but are unwilling to let go to do so. The guilt riddles us. The fear paralyzes us. The unknowns of the future, too uncertain. ⁠
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And so we stay. Held hostage by the familiar + the lie that we can never be who we are, can never do what we are meant to do, without them. ⁠
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Here’s your reminder:⁠

It’s okay to outgrow some people. It’s okay to walk away from a job or a friendship or a situation that you no longer align with. You can detach from the guilt of that exit and leave with gratitude and curiosity. You are worthy of growth + change. ⁠Letting go is uncomfortable, but it can also be exciting, as something beautiful is on its way… but it can only arrive if it’s welcomed with faith + space.

Are you outgrowing anything or anyone right now?

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