When children are ignored or denied or steam rolled as a child, it’s easy for a child to begin to believe there’s not something wrong with how they’re being treated, but something deeply wrong with THEM. A child is very ego centric, meaning experiences aren’t happening AROUND them, but TO them and often BECAUSE of them. This is the beginning of distrusting + abandoning one self; the beginning of morphing into someone we are not.
Later, these children become adults who become parents + without much awareness, pass off this SAME distrust in their parenting styles. In my opinion, it reveals itself through one major factor: acceptance. When we never were accepted as a child, we ourselves don’t feel accepted, ever. This makes it practically impossible to nurture this within our own parenting. The cycle continues as our kids will always be “too much this/not enough that,” until we heal— but it starts with us.
On Thursday I will address this topic in our Conscious Mama’s Circle (Part 2 of my 3 part series leading up to Mother’s Day). I’ll share tips on how to rebuild your own inner trust, practical examples on ways to notice + extend trust for your child, and of course open for q+a.
If you want to join this free workshop, I’ll be sending out the Zoom link to everyone on my email list. Be sure you’re signed up for it. Link in bio.
