Most adults are just injured little children.
But it doesn’t have to stay this way.
ACEs (adverse childhood experiences) affect every aspect of your adult life. The problem is, most women I work with tell themselves “it wasn’t that bad.” And maybe, it wasn’t. But most of the time, your childhood experiences can greatly impact how you see yourself and how you are showing up in your relationships now.
Remember, wounds don’t have to be the product of extreme abuse. Humiliation, passive aggressiveness, and silent treatments can and do store themselves in the mind and body. Because of this, you have developed skills to cope. These skills can become more detrimental than the initial pain, and over time will reveal themselves (in the most inconvenient ways).
“No pain is so devastating as the pain a person refuses to face, and no suffering is so lasting as suffering left unacknowledged.” – Cermak & Brown
When we push side difficult emotions, we lose opportunity to develop deep skills for resilience, and vulnerability, choosing instead to settle for whatever it takes to help us feel in control and pseudo safe.
You were made for so much more than this.
I am inviting you to start healing if as a child:
you witnessed physical, verbal, or emotional abuse
your sibling suffered from food, drug, or other addiction
you were grabbed, slapped or shamed
you lived with a family member who suffered from mental illness
your caregivers were drunk, high, or absent
your parents divorced or stayed together unhappily
you had little consistency, predictability, or boundaries
As I get older, and the more I unpack this stuff.. the more I come to the conclusion that it isn’t the pain of our past that keeps us in suffering, it is denying ourselves the healing from that pain that is. You are worthy of living in peace and freedom.