Many women are carrying the hurt of their own childhood. They also are accustomed to parenting the way they were parented. It can be seen when a mother opens up to her child without taking the time to reflect first or check the underlying motivation.
The women I work with are making big changes in how they show up, not just for themselves, but for their children. These questions are one of the practical ways we begin doing just that:
Before sharing with a child, ask yourself:
“Will sharing this with them make them feel unsafe?”
“Am I sharing this hurt someone through my child?”
“Do I expect my child to provide me guidance or support with this?”
“Is there an adult friend I can share with instead?”
“Am I sharing this to help make myself “look good” in this situation?
Part of codependency, people pleasing, enmeshment and anxiety stems from children taking on the role of caring for their parent. If this topic speaks to you, you may want to check out my newest course launching this month inside DYW called Rising Daughters.