For many of us, we grew up within family systems that were filled with dysfunction. Maybe with caregivers that were emotionally unavailable, abusive, addicted, enmeshed or simply too busy.
Over time a child doesn’t think “this family dynamic is wrong.” They begin to think “I am wrong.”
When we don’t get the connection we long for, we begin to question ourselves and not the relationships we have. We then doubt our ability to be loved. We begin to perform and pretend and people please. We live anxious and confused and uncertain. This we carry into adulthood.
Good news is, we can acknowledge this wounded part and do the work to heal. We can see the patterns of behavior we inherited and decide to live free from them. We can honor the anxious and avoidant tendencies and replace them with healthier, more fulfilling traits that leave us feeling secure and safe. We can have relationships that allow us to feel deeply seen, heard and accepted. We can remind ourselves daily that we are and have always been… ENOUGH. 🤍
