People pleasers are notorious for putting themselves last. They are so use to taking care of everyone around them, that they have become detached from their own needs/wants. This is the common hurdle between identifying and communicating inside your relationships and is often why people pleasers feel used, depleted and exhausted.
If this is you, know that you aren’t alone.
I have worked very hard on my own people pleasing tendencies. It has taken a lot of intention, but it was worth it. One of the first things I began doing was asking for basic needs inside my relationships. It felt weird and even uncomfortable at first, but over time, it got easier.
Here are a few things you are allowed to ask for (and should!) inside your relationships:
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a break or help
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some space
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time alone
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self compassion/forgiveness
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for others to be accountable
Where ever you are at in your healing journey, I hope that today you are reminded that you matter and not because of what you can do for others. You were not created to keep everyone around you happy or make them whole.
Keep going.
XO
