ohhhhh how many nights I spent praying and wishing and hoping that if I held tighter, if I tried harder, if I controlled more… that my relationships would get better.
They didn’t.
What happened instead was I slowly exhausted myself. I emotionally bloodied myself to a pulp that I couldn’t love anyone, because I had chosen to dismantle my own needs, wants, limits– for them. I was completely drained, and usually blamed them for my suffering.
Weak boundaries make for weak, anxious, confusing relationships. When boundaries are strong, relationships can be built on a foundation of trust, clarity and mutual respect. This is how we are loved + love others well.
If you want to improve your relationships, boundary work is the first place to start.
