Part of learning how to be in reciprocal relationships, is learning to spot unsafe qualities in others. Please note, we all have unsafe traits. This is because we are human! But there is a difference
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Hope Is Not Passive
You can have hope that they will heal… and set your boundary.
You can have hope that they will recover… and maintain your boundary.
You can have hope that they will evolve, learn and prosper
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Someone Just Opened Up to Me…
Ever have someone share something really vulnerable with you?
Maybe they were falling in love.
Maybe they were working through their trauma.
Maybe they decided to go back to school, or write that
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Wait, they said WHAT?!
It is easy to feel offended or taken aback when someone sets a limit with you.
Maybe they don’t appreciate how often you are late to their coffee date?
Maybe they aren’t happy with what you said to
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Do you say “sorry” often?
A friend called a few days ago to ask me thoughts on her overly obsessive need to apologize.
“Court, I say sorry even when I am not sorry. Why is that?”
I calmly reminded her that a lot of women do
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They can’t read your mind!
How do you know you are integrating the boundary work you are doing? You will notice over time, it starts to be less hard. You won’t have to refer to your core values constantly or to practice your
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Green flags in relationships
A few responses that you will receive from people who are willing + able to hold space for you, your growth and your limits. Note: Be sure you put these in your back pocket for when someone expresses
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Your closest friends should…
One of my greatest discoveries was that I could pick who I gave my time + energy to. Up until just a few years ago, I really didn’t feel I had a choice.
Your closest people are your allies, your
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A Good Friend Has Limits
Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to lose yourself to show up for someone. I was asked yesterday “how can I be a safe friend to others?”
It’s not by over committing.It’s not by picking up on
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