No one gave me permission to set boundaries in my household. I never learned this “language” as a child. The boundaries journey for me started as an adult with those outside my home and as a last attempt to end my own inner suffering. But slowly as I healed and as my practice evolved, I realized I had to utilize them with even my closest, loveliest little people. What came as a surprise to me, was how much my children began to thrive from these limits too.
I never knew I was allowed to leave my baby to play on their own for a bit. I thought I had to entertain them all day. I never knew I was allowed to use the bathroom even if it meant leaving my baby crying in a safe place for a bit, I thought it made me a bad mother. I never knew I was allowed to have date night with my husband guilt free, or put them to bed early enough in their own space so him and I could have intimate time together.
My child ran my world for the first year or so. My energy, my joy, my health all suffered. I was drowning + miserable + scared. I thought I had to martyr myself + dismantle my needs to be a good mom. I believed the lie and put on the show.
I no longer feel guilty for setting loving limits within our home. My children don’t “need” me 24/7 like I had originally believed. The big kids know how to be bored. The babies can whine + find their hand to stare at while I make dinner. And I no longer carry guilt for giving my children moments to play, rest or have their own space away from me. I can’t be their entire world forever, and they can’t be mine. But damn we sure can enjoy each other’s worlds much better these days!! With laughter, freedom + genuine appreciation.
They feel safe + loved + secure not because I entertain or hold them all the time. They feel safe + loved + secure because we have established routines that run on trust, communication, faith + boundaries.
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