If you grew up with love, safety or affection that was dangled like a 🥕 … easily withheld or rewarded or unavailable for whatever reason— you may feel this “working to keep them” ((WTKT)) energy arise as an adult.
It’s more common than we would like to admit… we feel someone pull away, maybe our partner, child, coworker, bestie… and we think “what did I do? What can I do? What’s wrong?” The quietness + distance may bring about panic.
Learning to notice this energy is the first step in reassuring yourself. We no longer have to perform or perfect or pretend. Even the best, most secure relationships need breathing room to blossom. We no longer have to fear abandonment or living anxiously. We can remind ourselves of this often.
Self care means trusting that relationships ebb + flow. This isn’t your burden to carry, only a natural part of the process. 🤍
Repeat after me: 🗣 I am enough.
