I’ve been reading comments about your confusion, your dread, your guilt.
Loving your mother, especially if she has hurt, disappointed or abandoned you, is hard.
Maybe she wounded you with her words, her fists, her absence. And now Mother’s Day has you feeling pressure to do “what is right.” You may be feeling like you have to shelve your needs, to honor her… I hear you.
I want to share with you permission to do what you need. Yes, you read that right. Loving her well may mean distance, space, silence.
Spend some time tuning in, asking “how can I feel safe? How can I feel at peace? How can I remind myself I am enough?”
Loving your mother may look different than how others around you love theirs. That doesn’t make the way you love her wrong. It simply means you’re learning how to love her, AND you.
Reminder: love that is rooted in guilt, fear, anxiety or obligation— is not love at all.
I’m sending out some resources for those of you looking for a bit of support this weekend. I know this relationship can cause you to feel all sorts of ways, and I want to be sure you have some support for whatever comes up for you. I’ll be sending it out in my text community + also my email list. Be sure you sign up… links in bio.