How do you actually know if/when you need to set a boundary?
This list does not exhaust all the possibilities or reasons, but it is a good start.
Usually, you’ll know because your body signals it doesn’t feel safe: symptoms like stomach aches, insomnia, migraines, etc.
You also are no longer “in control” of your happiness. You live on the defense with a low simmering anger/rage, OR you have become so fawned out that you simply shrink back, nod and smile. Life has lost its zest, it’s beauty, it’s joy.
Here’s the catch 22: we have convinced ourselves that to blend in, to get along, to do more, is the way to ensure our safety, our acceptance, our happiness. And then we wonder, after doing all of this— why we still are suffering. But instead of challenging the system, the conditioning in which we have been taught to live and love, we instead challenge ourselves. Of course, WE must not be doing enough.
But it’s a lie we have been believing for far too long.
Boundaries are the way to ensure we are authentically showing up as our best selves, with pure motives to serve or help rooted in love and connection and wholeness. They guard your resources, your precious energy, your gifts. They allow you to remember that you are enough. You no longer need that old armor, those old survival skills. You can just be.
When did you know you needed to set a boundary in your life? 👇🏼 #cjbboundaries