It’s easy for most people to believe that I am some “expert” at boundary setting. Truth is, I’m forever a student, learning, shifting, evolving, just like you. I actually don’t even like the term expert. (But that’s another post for another day. )
It wasn’t too long ago that I feared losing those I loved the most. My body was suffering, I couldn’t sleep, I had shingles outbreaks, migraines, and panic attacks.
Love to me was manipulation, guilt trips, chaos, addiction. It meant remaining loyal to people and places that caused me much pain and confusion. They weren’t wrong, their choices and actions weren’t wrong— it was me that was wrong. My inner compass was leading me astray.
Or so I thought.
I stayed for many years, because life without them seemed unbearable. I didn’t want to speak up, to make anyone upset, to be left out or talked about.
I cried myself to sleep many nights. Until one day, I found the courage to walk a new path.
It hasn’t always been pretty. But it’s been worth it. Because I now believe that I’m worth it.
Sending you love and encouragement where ever you are at today. 🤍
What would you tell your self? Or maybe, what is it that you need to hear today?