This time of year is extremely challenging for many, especially those with children. It’s hard to even know what your boundary is, let alone communicate it and then detach from how others respond to it. I get it! I’ve been doing this work for years and when it comes to family, it can still be overwhelming.
Big emotions arise when our boundaries are disrespected, because for perhaps the first time, we are learning to show up for ourselves. When others don’t understand or support or needs, we see it as a personal attack. It feels then less about the condition of the boundary, and more about the relationship.
Boundary work is messy, but it is so rewarding! You’ll learn with practice that others inability to show up for you doesn’t mean your boundary is wrong, or that you should abandon yourself and it. You begin to create a sense of safety + advocacy for yourself and your little family without the approval from others. It’s freedom + peace. 🤍