I once heard someone say that complaining women tend to be controlling women. What I think they meant was, we often complain about what we can’t control.
“Ugh the weather is so gross today.” “I can’t understand why she wears that.” “My husband never helps around the house.” “My mother in law is so moody.”
The truth is, there are always going to be situations and environments we can’t control. But, what we can control is our response to it all.
Boundaries allow you the opportunity to surrender what isn’t yours to carry, while taking responsibility for what you can and should deal with.
Maybe the weather is gross, but what does griping about it do? Nothing.
Maybe a girlfriend does dress inappropriately according to your standards, but is that really your place to judge?
Maybe your husband isn’t very helpful, but would you be willing to get vulnerable for a minute and sit down to discuss what is bothering you be more helpful than whining about all that he doesn’t do?
And yes, mother in laws can be moody. But, what is your part in this? Can you limit when and how you spend time with her, or set limits to ensure you don’t allow her mood to become yours?
I want to challenge you today… try to not complain. It may be harder than you think. Every time you want to gripe about something, consider one thing that IS GOOD. That IS BRIGHT. That IS WONDERFUL.
You may be amazed at how much your words reinforce your thoughts, which in turn influence your perspective.
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