My first born was the tip of the spear. We learned how to be (and not to be) a parent with her. The second time around we were much more equipped, more confident, more clear headed about our style + intentions. Enter round three with twins and yet again, more refinement.
One of the biggest changes I’ve noticed is my pace. Thanks to reading more about the philosophy of Magda Gerber and following the work of @janetlansbury, I have come to realize that even infants deserve respect. What does this look like? Connecting through diaper changes instead of rushing. Talking with them about bath time, or introducing them to who I’m handing them off to even if it’s a familiar face.
I’m not always perfect. Sometimes my old ways show up. But I’ve come a long way, and it feels good for them, and me.
Some may argue that a baby doesn’t have a clue. That these concepts are silly even. But I disagree. Plus, engaging with them through respectful conversation is great practice for when they’re older. It’s never too early to begin. 🤍