@nedratawwab and I chatted a bit on our LIVE about “helicopter” parenting + how detrimental it is long term for a child. (It’s saved under her IGTV if you missed it).
I really do believe parents want to help children. We want to see them succeed, feel happy + live proud, accomplished lives. We want this so badly that we tend to over step our own boundaries, and begin to do the work for our children. This is where codependency forms… we simply cannot separate ourselves from them. Our identity is so strongly rooted in who we are as a mother that we lose sight of the bigger picture, the end goal. We strip them of their own intrinsic motivation + tend to get in the way of a lot of life’s much needed lessons; like learning to fail, growing independently + living responsibly.
Codependency is a language that I believe is inherited. It is healed through awareness + boundary setting. Some of the hardest boundaries we need to set are the ones on ourselves, especially as mothers. This is to ensure that the “help” we give our children doesn’t turn into harmful coping skills that we pass on to them down the road. Thoughts?