I never succeeded with a long term change when I hated myself. I never got sober because I was embarrassed or punished. I never started working out or eating well because of someone’s rude remarks about my body. I never went back to school because I felt stupid or not enough. I never began healing + showing up for my children as the mother I wanted to be because I was ashamed.
True change doesn’t happen this way.
It happened through connection. Acceptance. It happened through slowly learning to believe that I am worthy of eating nutritiously, of loving my body enough to move it, of sobriety because I am done numbing + hiding, and of breaking cycles because it is divinely possible through me.
Same can be said of romantic partners + children. Humans need to feel deeply connected + accepted. They need to feel safe + supported. They need to believe that they are loved regardless of the change, and when they are ready to do so, they will be loved just the same along the way.
This is the time of year that marketers + companies will work hard to exploit your insecurities. They will sell you makeup, “lose weight quick” shakes, diet pills and more. They will remind you of your flaws + your lacks. They will highlight what you “need” and why.
None of these products are wrong in my eyes, however please know they will not bring you that of which you must find inside + within safe relationships.
We all have resolutions + goals for 2021. I personally love chasing after something + growing myself in areas that need improvement. But don’t allow this to become one more way you inflict self harm. Take steps towards change because you are learning how to LOVE who you are becoming, not because you are trying to avoid, numb, distract or hide yourself.
Love to you today, friends.
I believe in your healing.
You are enough. ❤️
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