I lived on hyper alert for a very long time. I was vigilant at scanning my surroundings; picking up on any change of tone or body language. I believe now that this was a part of growing up in a home
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Someone Just Opened Up to Me…
Ever have someone share something really vulnerable with you?Maybe they were falling in love.Maybe they were working through their trauma. Maybe they decided to go back
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Are you a People Pleaser?
We think we are pleasing others because it is how we show our love. But if we look beneath the surface of this behavior, we will find that it is much more than that.
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How will I know I am healing?
Occasionally, we want to know.Like, am I getting any better?Am I breaking cycles?Is this work actually paying off?The answer is yes. This is how you will know: you can
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Are you living wounded?
Most adults are just injured little children. But it doesn’t have to stay this way. ACEs (adverse childhood experiences) affect every aspect of your adult life. The
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Before sharing with your child, ask yourself this:
Many women are carrying the hurt of their own childhood. They also are accustomed to parenting the way they were parented. It can be seen when a mother opens up to her
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Do you say “sorry” often?
A friend called a few days ago to ask me thoughts on her overly obsessive need to apologize. “Court, I say sorry even when I am not sorry. Why is that?”I calmly reminded
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Are you distracting yourself?
Hear me out. Distractions aren’t all bad. Really. We need them. We can’t do this “work” non-stop.It’s not an all in, all out sort of thing. Pauses are essential. What
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What to do when they cross a line…
Others cross invisible lines ALL THE TIME. Maybe they mean to do it, maybe not. Intention doesn’t matter really, as it doesn’t lessen the discomfort. They say something
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Even a “YES” gets limits.
Many of the women I work with have a hard time saying “no.” They are people pleasers who are so accustomed to giving without reservation. So much so, that they are living
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