I was raised Catholic. I learned to fear God, place family first, and to forgive quickly… no matter the circumstances. Over the years I lost myself, and lost the purpose + passion God placed on my life. I was so deeply enmeshed + mixed into the pain and chaos of others, without any real way of breaking free or protecting myself. I was confused, hurt + anxious.
What I have learned through my own healing is that I’m allowed limits, and that authentic, close relationships can only thrive on healthy boundaries. God never made me (or you) to be a door mat, or a problem solver of other people’s issues. I can have compassion + hold space, without being swept away. I can care deeply + also limit my exposure to those who are at different places of healing then me. I can love hard, forgive + also boldly know that I am worthy of guarding my time, treasures + emotional well-being.
Problem is, these old scripts + beliefs (roadblocks) can be said and throw you for a tail spin. I’ve come to understand that setting boundaries disrupts the systems in place. Change causes movement, movement causes friction. Friction makes everyone uncomfortable.
Remember, how others react is usually confirmation not that you or your boundary is wrong, but that the system is.