The hardest boundaries to set are often the ones with parents. Why?
Because we love them.
Because we fear losing them.
Because we want to belong.
Because we believe that’s loyalty.
Because we want their approval.
Because we don’t want to disappoint.
Because it’s easier to keep the peace.
Because we care about what they think and need… and because we have been conditioned to care more about what THEY think and need over what WE think and need.
And so, instead of doing the sticky, hard, messy work of setting a limit— we self abandon. This causes much inner turmoil. A war with self, if you will.
It doesn’t have to be that way. Boundaries are the way to loving others well. Even parents.
Do you experience any of these with a parent? Which one stands out to you? 👇🏼