I spent many years trying to numb my feelings, then many years after that trying to un numb, trust myself + learn how to feel again. I’m still a work in progress. (Check out my stories today)
The greatest litmus test for my own allowance in this area is easy + readily available. They come in ages 5,3 and (two) 4 month olds.
How do I respond to my children when they express big emotions? THIS is how I know. Do I respond with patience? Calmness? Curiosity? Do I rush to fix? Judge? Punish? Do I run? Hide? Ignore? Here lies the areas that need tending within me. My children are my mirror. A portal to my unhealed wounds. The way I treat them is simply a reflection of my own emotional wellness, or lack of. ✨
Perhaps my greatest work, but definitely my most prized legacy, is to welcome my own pain, hold it + heal it. This ensures my babies will never have to run from themselves like I did. 🤍