It’s not okay that your parents vent about each other to you.
It’s not okay that you’re asked to keep their secrets.
It’s not okay that you’ve somehow become their therapist, their sex coach, their scapegoat, their doormat, their fixer or healer.
I’m sorry if you lost your childhood. You are the child, then, and now. You never deserved any of these roles. You picked them up because you wanted to be loved, seen, needed + accepted. You worked to feel safe, appreciated + included. You wanted to help, to serve, to love them… even if it hurt you. Children do that. They mold + bend + fit right in unless someone steps up and says “no, I’m the parent, not you.”
🤍Forgive yourself for that.
You don’t need to *be* any of these things anymore, to anyone but yourself. As an adult, you can choose to set the old role you’ve played with your caregiver down. You can begin to heal + set yourself free.
If this brings up stuff for you, like guilt, resentment, confusion, or whatever else… check out my reparenting + inner child work resources available {free} in my bio. ✨Also going LIVE with my BOUNDARIES soul sister @nedratawwab on Sept 14th at 11a EST on her page to discuss Codependency in family relationships. I hope you’ll tune in.
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Now is the time to Discover Your Worth.
