Yes, people do change. Time can heal a lot of wounds. However it is nearly impossible to return to an old relationship without boundaries + it’s naive to expect it to succeed without them. We would like to believe that things will miraculously fall into place, we hope that with some separation and distance, all will be better. Unfortunately, that isn’t the case. It takes a lot of intentional work, courageous communication, and a steady willingness to examine the old patterns of behavior that gnaw away at love, connection and growth. If it wasn’t working before, you’ll need to apply something new. Boundaries are the best place to start.
boundaries do not separate… boundaries are the way to possible reconciliation. It takes two, it takes messy, imperfect commitment, it takes a desire to mend.
Sending love today to all of you who deeply hoped for reconciliation and have yet to receive it. Grieving is a process. Hang on to hope. Hang on to your boundaries, too. 🤍
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