Almost ten years ago, I began seeing a therapist. I knew I had a problem with alcohol, but I didn’t know a thing about being codependent.
He asked me a simple question. A question that
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Archives for July 2021
Codependency
Codependency is a survival pattern of behavior that is often acquired as a child through a desire to feel safe and connected to their caregivers. Maybe these caregivers
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Self harm is when…
It’s pretty bad when we accept mistreatment from those we care about. It’s even worse when we convince ourselves that this is being loyal and how we love. Justifying or
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I would tell her…
It’s easy for most people to believe that I am some “expert” at boundary setting. Truth is, I’m forever a student, learning, shifting, evolving, just like you. I actually
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Wounded Me vs Healing Me
The incredibly painful realization is that most of us lose ourselves by working to keep others. Which means if they do in fact decide to leave, you’ll have lost them, AND
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Tell Them No.
Everyone loves a YES person. Yes I’ll help. Yes that’s fine.Yes I can do it.Yes count me in!
But the right people for you will not only handle your no, they will
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Boundaries: Healing from Codependency
I didn’t know I was codependent. I just knew I didn’t know what I wanted and focused on what everyone else wanted. I desperately needed those in my life to be happy. I
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You are tired because…
If only we were taught how to accept + let go as much as we are conditioned to self abandon/hustle/work to keep them. Maybe you aren’t to blame. Maybe shrinking and
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You are tired because…
If only we were taught how to accept + let go as much as we are conditioned to self abandon/hustle/work to keep them. Maybe you aren’t to blame. Maybe shrinking and
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Your job: manage your boundary
Because the moment you take your eyes off of managing your own life and begin trying to edit or manipulate or manage or control how THEY interpret it… you lose your
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