Almost ten years ago, I began seeing a therapist. I knew I had a problem with alcohol, but I didn’t know a thing about being codependent.
He asked me a simple question. A question that
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Archives for June 2021
It’s okay to outgrow people and places
I use to train with a trainer that I thought I couldn’t stay healthy without. I had a family that I thought I couldn’t find belonging without.I had a job that I thought
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Talking yourself out of setting boundaries
There are reasons people set boundaries, and reasons people (even unconsciously) talk themselves out of setting boundaries. Part of this work is first learning to uncover
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Boundaries with your parent
The hardest boundaries to set are often the ones with parents. Why? Because we love them.Because we fear losing them.Because we want to belong.Because we believe that’s
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Fear of Abandonment
We all fear abandonment, because we all crave belonging + acceptance. We all have placed our security + hope + safety in the wrong things/people. We all have experienced
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Invitations to set a Boundary
How do you actually know if/when you need to set a boundary? This list does not exhaust all the possibilities or reasons, but it is a good start. Usually, you’ll know
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Red flags in relationships
You are not crazy, not too sensitive, not unforgiving, not over reacting. How others push back against your boundary setting has little to do with you and everything to
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Green flags in relationships
A few responses that you will receive from people who are willing + able to hold space for you, your growth and your limits. Note: Be sure you put these in your back
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Black Sheep Life Forever
I know what it’s like to be left out by your family. I know how it feels to have a pull so deep inside drawing you back, a voice so loud that screams “You can’t do this,
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Signs: Reparent your inner child
I never kept promises to myself. I never knew what I wanted in a partner, in a career, for lunch. I did whatever everyone else wanted. I people pleased until it hurt, and
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