I did so many horrible things when I was in survival mode. I drank, did drugs, slept around, lied, cheated + stole.
I ran from my pain, my anxiety, my depression. I numbed + avoided being in my
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Archives for January 2021
Trusting myself doesn’t mean…
We lose trust in ourselves when our early caregivers abandon, punish or ridicule our thoughts, limits and needs. We then don’t question them, we question ourselves. Self abandonment soon follows. It
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Resistance to pain is also resistance to pleasure
I spent years running from myself. Any discomfort I would numb. Not just with drugs + alcohol, but with chaos, men, shopping, distractions + taking care of others. I hated slowing down, I hated being
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Quit controlling others and calling it love
I clung to control and called it “love.” Truth is, I was afraid. And attempting to control people + situations helped me feel safe. It also distracted me. When I was dabbling in other peoples stuff, I
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Masks of Codependency
Codependency can be very sneaky.
For me, I always held the role of “helper.” I offered to drive. I helped clean up. I took them dinner. I stayed late. I arrived early. I answered the call I didn’t
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Don’t be surprised
You’re allowed limits.
You’re allowed to keep yourself whole, and welcome love. You’re allowed to be fully seen + accepted. You’re allowed to ask for what you need, too.
Those that matter will stick
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Note to Self: I no longer have to fear abandonment
I am worthy of this, and so are you. 🤍
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Reminder: You are braver than you know
I pulled out my box of old journals to read through. I’ve been working hard on my book and these details, this girl, they all matter.
When I saw this, I thought of some of you. I felt a sudden urge
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Criticizing others is just as damaging
My outside relationships are a reflection of my inside one. How I treat myself, is how I will treat my partner, my children, my coworkers, my friends.
I notice when I start slipping on my own
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