Almost ten years ago, I began seeing a therapist. I knew I had a problem with alcohol, but I didn’t know a thing about being codependent.
He asked me a simple question. A question that
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Archives for November 2020
Holiday Boundaries may include…
Reminder: Others don’t have to agree or support or understand what you need in order for you to keep yourself feeling safe + whole. To love doesn’t mean to struggle
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Make space to feel both
I see you if the holidays have you feeling a bit of grief. This perhaps is the first holiday without someone you love. Maybe you lost them. Maybe you walked away. Maybe
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Violating a child’s Boundaries
I was asked yesterday “where’s the balance?”I don’t think there’s a “balance” when keeping your child safe + whole. I do think there are topics that are simply OFF THE
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Advocating for a child’s Boundaries
Children are born with boundaries. They know their limits and have no problem expressing them. Hang out with a toddler long enough and you’ll know what I’m talking about.
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Boundaries exist on holidays
Remember, boundaries exist— even + especially on a holiday. Showing up for yourself is expensive. It’ll cost you some friendships, it’ll piss off some family, it’ll
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Honoring your parents
Hi friends, just a reminder in case you need it. You don’t honor your parents by dishonoring yourself. It takes courage to set boundaries, have messy conversations, and
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Boundary Myths & Truths
Plaster this on a sticky note and place it every where you need to (your bathroom mirror, the car dash board, your fridge) because the time will come when you’ll need to
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Having no expectations doesn’t mean…
We hear the phrase “have no expectations” tossed around all the time. It’s the key to happiness and peace, they say. What has happened over time however is that we have
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How to gauge inner work
Want to know the gauge I use when it’s time to kick my inner work up a notch? I get very critical.My children aren’t doing enough right. My partner is a slacker. My
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